Weaning from breastfeeding: how to do it gently
There is no single right time to stop breastfeeding. Some families wean when the baby shows less interest, others when work, health or simply a sense of being ready makes the decision. Whatever the reason, a gradual approach is gentler on both of you.
What the recommendations say
The WHO recommends exclusive breastfeeding for about the first six months, and continued breastfeeding alongside suitable solid foods up to two years or beyond, for as long as mother and child want. In Norway, Helsedirektoratet gives similar advice, with solids introduced at around six months, and the decision on when to stop is yours.
Any breastfeeding is valuable, and stopping earlier than the recommendations is a legitimate choice. If you are weaning before your baby is one year old, you will need to offer infant formula in place of breast milk. See our guide on formula feeding.
Wean gradually, one feed at a time
Gradual weaning lets your milk supply decrease slowly, which reduces the risk of engorgement and mastitis, and gives your baby time to adjust. A common approach is to drop one feed every few days to a week, replacing it with a bottle or cup, or a snack and drink for older babies.
Start with the feed your baby is least interested in, which is often the midday one. The early morning and bedtime feeds are usually the last ones to go, as they are often about comfort. Go at the pace that suits you both. It is fine to pause and take it more slowly.
Night weaning
If you want to stop night feeds, wait until your baby is old enough to manage without them, which most doctors consider is possible from around six months, though this varies. You can shorten each night feed, offer a drink of water to older babies, or let a partner settle the baby for a few nights. Expect some protests at first.
Be consistent, and give extra cuddles and attention in the day. See our guide on night feeding and sleeping through the night.
Comfort for you and for your baby
While supply falls, some mothers feel full or uncomfortable. Hand-express just enough to relieve pressure, not to empty the breast, which would tell the body to keep producing. Cold packs and a supportive bra help.
Offer extra closeness, such as cuddles, skin contact and play, so the baby still gets the comfort that breastfeeding gave. Hormonal changes can affect mood, so it is common to feel sad, relieved or both. Talk to your partner, a friend or your health nurse. If low mood is lasting or heavy, contact your doctor or health nurse.
When to ask for help
Contact your health nurse or doctor if you get a hard, painful lump, a red area, fever or flu-like symptoms during weaning, as these can be signs of mastitis. See our guide on engorgement and mastitis.
Also seek advice if your baby refuses all milk alternatives, drinks very little, has few wet diapers or seems unwell, or if you wean suddenly for medical reasons and need support.
Frequently asked questions
How long does weaning take?
It varies a lot. Gradual weaning often takes a few weeks to several months, depending on your baby's age, how often you feed and how much you rely on breastfeeding for comfort.
What is the best way to wean from breastfeeding?
Most families find a gradual approach best: replace one feed at a time with a bottle or cup, starting with the feed your baby cares about least, and leave the early morning and bedtime feeds for last.
Can I wean my baby quickly?
It is possible, but it raises the risk of engorgement and mastitis and can be harder emotionally for both of you. If you must stop quickly, ask your health nurse or doctor for advice.
When does the milk dry up after I stop breastfeeding?
Supply usually decreases over days to weeks as feeds are dropped. Some milk may remain for weeks or even months after you stop, and that is normal.
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